​Today we see the rise of etiquette schools around the world from Africa to Asia.  Their veritable explosion in China is a testament to that, for etiquette schools offer courses that help one straddle the cultural divide between east and west through acquiring cultural sensitivity and competence.  Programs detail European customs and expectations both within the private and work domains as well as more specific courses such as British dining and how to conduct a royal afternoon tea, which are all hugely popular and constantly sold out.

The western world had etiquette schools in most cities; however, by the 1970's - 80's they had slowly closed their doors, with wider society feeling the schools had little to offer.  What, they wondered, did schools like the longest standing finishing school is IVP, Switzerland, where Madame Neri and family have dedicated their lives to teaching European etiquette to international ladies, royality, wives of diplomats, prime ministers and society notables, have to do with them?  With the advent of the Internet, globalisation and screens, the way in which we communicate has evolved rapidly - and some would argue that it has devolved.  Etiquette schools themselves have adapted to such a change and now offer the ever-popular cross-cultural courses such as Chinese etiquette, how to cope with bullying courses for teenagers, and basic table manners that are open to everybody.

We have seen figures such as Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, transformed through their training in royal etiquette that improve their confidence, posture and body language and enable them to feel at ease and conduct themselves appropriately in a wide array of formal and non-formal events.  Today etiquette and finishing schools are flourishing globally: migrants and business people in particular have sensitised themselves to the reality that the respect and understanding of other cultures are the keys to unlocking the capacity to integrate and work successfully with others, for both themselves and their children.  In doing so, they gain knowledge, confidence and the capacity to find that competitive edge within business and social situations.  

Etiquette and finishing schools are the schools of the future.

 
I recently chatted with Elizabeth Soos, consultant and principal of Auersmont School of Etiquette. Auersmont is a boutique etiquette consultancy firm that provides professional advice and expert knowledge in the world of etiquette, social conventions and good manners.

Prestigious British etiquette educators, Emma Dupont in London and Paris and Shanghai-based etiquette and service consultant, Guillaume Rue de Bernadac at Academie de Bernadac, trained Elizabeth.
Her training, coupled with a European background and extensive knowledge in cross-cultural issues, has enabled her to build Auersmont School of Etiquette to what it is today.

Elizabeth believes that it is crucial to start with etiquette in the formative years of a child’s life, setting them in good stead for the future in their adult years.

The courses that Elizabeth provides at Auersmont School of Etiquette have been tailored to match etiquette to the needs of all ages, from children to teens and adults.

She has even devised specific training for business professionals and those newly entering the workforce. One of her speciality subjects is Interviewing Etiquette.  At any age, applying for work and attending an interview can seem daunting,  so this course that she offers will guide you through the interview process to be prepared and equipped.

Thank you to Matthew Coppola for writing this wonderful article. ​www.clientcentric.com.au

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Afternoon tea at the grand Hotel Windsor is certainly a grand experience.  Welcomed past the warm sun-soaked stone façade and the pretty window boxes of red geraniums into the charming reception of this five-star Victorian-era hotel, one of Australia’s finest, we were ushered through to the luminous room hosting the afternoon tea whose large windows offered views over Spring Street to the stately Parliament House.

Seated at one of the finely dressed round tables where we were again welcomed, our afternoon of indulgence commenced.  A 19th century practice imported from England to Australia, afternoon teas are a celebration of high-quality reinterpretations of the basics – tea, finger sandwiches, sweet and savoury tarts, and a selection of deserts.  Windsor Hotel – or The Windsor, as it currently calls itself – has been the place in Melbourne to experience afternoon tea for over 130 years.

Served by the highly attentive staff with a fine attention to detail, our experience unrolled as smoothly as the gentle apple notes of the French sparkling wine gave way to a rounded wood finish and we worked our way through each tier.  We were presented with petite savoury pastries on the upper tier: Cornish pasties and confit onion tart.  The balance of organic vegetables in the Cornish pasties were encased in utterly buttery pastry that reflected the season’s change to autumn.  The slow-cooked caremelised onions were a perfect match with the goat’s milk cheese and orange reduction, served with a half-slice of cherry tomato for an acid bite and visual appeal.

The lower tier presented ribbon sandwiches with a distinct English touch with a nod to Asia: the salmon sandwiches with dill, mayonnaise and gherkin were served in a milk bun reminiscent of Hokkaido.  Roasted walnuts give a delightful textural crunch to the sandwich containing tender roast chicken with celery.  Finally, the traditional egg with mayonnaise ribbon sandwich hit a new high with a daring dash of horseradish.

The middle tier we kept for last to finish on a sweet note.  The three desserts were simply too beautiful to eat, but we did anyway, to our delight.  The shining sphere of almond sponge and basil mousse covered in strawberry lacquer was a triumph.  Caroline and Stéphanie Tatin would have approved of the apple tarte tatin whose walnut sablé crumbled delicately in the mouth, the perfect foil for the apples and classic vanilla cream.  The buckwheat and dark chocolate tart gave us a taste both of Bretagne in the west of France and South-East Asia, the former through the buckwheat sablé and the latter through the tart gelée of the kalamansi citrus fruit, joined by a delectable dollop of 65% dark chocolate cremeux.

Of course, the afternoon tea wouldn’t be an afternoon tea without the tea!  Our server helped us to choose teas that would most suit our preferences, giving information that supplemented the brief descriptions given in the tea menu.  The aromatic tea, after being brewed at the correct temperature, was served into porcelain cups.  For those who had room, the scones – plain or with plump sultanas – were just as they should be: buttery with a giving crumb, light and well-risen.  They were served with the hotel’s eponymous jam and thick clotted cream.

There are many hotels and restaurants around the world who offer afternoon teas.  However, to succeed, the venue needs to strike the right balance between ambiance, food and beverage quality and service standards.  Whether staying in the hotel or not, the staff answered all questions in a friendly manner and served the afternoon tea in an unobtrusive way.  The delicious food showed originality and the teas utmost care in their sourcing and serving.  The Windsor’s building itself has stood the test of time – and whose guests have included several Australian Prime Ministers, Don Bradman, Claudette Colbert, Margaret Thatcher, Gregory Peck and Meryl Streep, among others, and provided an unparalleled cadre in which to enjoy the city’s best afternoon tea.

When teaching etiquette to students, I always endeavour to introduce the old idea that etiquette is a genderless subject that is valuable because it shows that respect knows no bounds.  I like to give students a background of the European origins of etiquette.  However, I do get asked about Australian Etiquette.  Is there such a thing? Yes, there is.

Etiquette has changed in Australia over the years.  It was introduced when English gentry settled here in the country’s colonial infancy.  Essentially, etiquette, like new laws, relationships, and services that underwrote the changes to its environment, economy and society, was re-written from the birth of Australia. 
After teaching a student etiquette in the Melbourne CBD, I decided to take a walk to the State Library of Victoria, where I found an interesting read, A Guide to Australian Etiquette by Lillian M Pyke (Lillian Maxwell), published in Melbourne at the turn of the century and re-published through to the war years.  Her use of archaic English wording was replaced with modern English for the newer generations.  Her book entailed subjects as how to perform introductions and topics of conversation to how to dress and manage matters of hygiene.

Polite society did value the worth of the usage of etiquette and adjusted its mindset towards that.  Emphasis was put on social graces, dining behaviour and being well dressed was a must. The Victorian-based television series Ms Fisher Murder Mysteries and Dr Blake Mysteries use forms of British etiquette in speech and comportment. 

In 1985 Ita Buttrose published A Guide to Australian Etiquette detailing what she perceived to be correct comportment for modern Australia.  Ms Buttrose discusses subjects such as de-escalating ‘trolley-rage’ at a store to what to expect and experience in a mosque.  In a nod to our outdoors lifestyle, she showed great concern about bare feet and having armpits on display.
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During an ABC radio interview with Richard Aedy, Ms Buttrose, herself described Australian society as having changed over time to become “an informal society,” However, the “fundamentals of how we treat each other, really, have never changed over the years.” Ms Buttrose went onto say that manners “are a sign of a civilised society” that “make the world a much nicer place to be.”  I agree with Ms Buttrose wholeheartedly. 
Etiquette almost became a lost art form from the 1960s.  In the last few years, it has been making a comeback.  New schools Australia-wide are being established to teach subjects such as dining, afternoon tea and social etiquette in the form of workshops and courses.  Parents are enrolling their children during school holidays in group classes to learn how to introduce themselves, use the correct cutlery, and how to navigate social media.
Etiquette is genderless, timeless and elegant.  May you use etiquette.
 
Other Books on Australian Etiquette:

• Etiquette for Australians by Noreen Routledge 1969
• The Penguin Book of Etiquette – The complete Australian Guide to Modern Manners 2007
• Australian Etiquette of the Rules and Usages of the Best Society in the Australasian Colonies together with their Sports, Pastimes, Games and Amusements 1885

WA royal family fans take etiquette lessons to study Meghan Markle sparkle

​Regina Titelius PerthNow
January 13, 2019 12:42PM
https://www.perthnow.com.au/news/royal-family/wa-royal-family-fans-study-meghan-markle-sparkle-ng-b881070550z

Renwed fascination with the royals is inspiring West Aussie women to get etiquette training.  Class enrolments are up since Meghan Markle took royal lessons before getting hitched to Harry.  Perth etiquette expert Elizabeth Soos runs “how to be a duchess” classes, which include lessons on proper manners and protocols.  Her pupils include Germaine Koh, of Fremantle, who said she felt outside her comfort zone at high-end cocktail events a few years ago for her fiancé’s work in Monaco, Italy and London.“  I felt really uncomfortable because the level of etiquette at the posh places we went to, particularly in Monaco, was beyond anything I had come across before,” Mrs Koh said.  Not only has she learnt the high tea rules of engagement and other palatial requirements, but the Singaporean-born woman, who is stepping into real estate, was schooled on how to make the best first impression.  Armed with the training and a new wedding band, Mrs Koh was ready to mingle with the Hermes bag clique when she again accompanied her new husband for overseas functions late last year.  “I was so much more confident at these events compared to my previous trips, I just wish I had done the duchess course sooner,” she said.  “To know the proper etiquette is good for everyone, it shows respect to your partner, respect to business. It’s not only a matter of my husband making a good impression but also for partners.”  Ms Soos said the royal wedding had helped return etiquette to the spotlight.  She said Meghan had gone through a phenomenal transformation in a short period, with royal watchers noting her improvements in how she curtsied and interacted with other family members and the public.  “People might think etiquette sounds old fashioned and they think of Queen Victoria or young Queen Elizabeth but etiquette is respect for other people and it goes back to treating people how you would want to be treated,” Ms Soos said.

Today we are constantly flooded by messages from everybody about everything: email alerts, messages and ideas from friends, family.  Yet when we don’t feel that tingle that comes from seeing a new message on our phone we wonder and wait for one, or send messages ourselves to provoke a response.  We can take control of this.  To help, here are a few phone etiquette rules you can follow yourself or for your family:

Turn off your phone completely during a meal with friends or family and focus on the those in front of you.  In doing so, you promote quality time by concentrating entirely on the people around you and the conversations you share.  Try to wean yourself of your device - digital detox - by organising a phone-free evening or day!  Just leave yourself  free to answer and make necessary calls only on other days.  Delete apps that you rarely use or turn off app notifications so your phone does not disturb you constantly.   Just remember turn off your phone completely when dining, and during interviews and meetings.

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Etiquette has changed its face in the past few years for children and teens to adapt to modern factors that affect their socialisation.  These include the advent of mobile phones, access to the Internet and social media outlets, as well as the unprecedented business of family lives.

Auersmont School of Etiquette has developed modern and exciting classes accommodating the modern teen and child.  We teach classical subjects such as dining, social and deportment, provide students with confidence and poise, which will help them negotiate relationships within and outside the school environment. 

Subjects include social media safety, how to manage bullying and how to make friends.  Etiquette, when taught at these formative ages, provides greater sense of self and one's environment, social awareness,  building blocks of a strong present and future.

Elizabeth Soos has spoken to past graduates of etiquette schools that have graced Australia and Europe. Universally, they fondly remembered their course and felt that they used facts and techniques they learned throughout their adult life.  However, many of the students agreed that when their parents wanted to enroll them in an etiquette course, it was their parents who were more enthused by the idea - they themselves preferred to be with their friends or at the movies.

To study etiquette means to carve out a better place in your world through greater politeness, kindness and respect for both yourself and others. Auersmont School of Etiquette can help by teaching you these essential skills vital in today's world. 

#auersmont #etiquette #children #kids #teens #teenagers #manners #respect #perth #westernaustralia
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​Yes, everyone, there is a difference between the two.  To explain, let me take you back a century or so.  Afternoon Tea is associated with Anna Stanhope, the 7thDuchess of Bedford, of the British Royal Family.  In those days when lunch was served at midday and dinner around 8pm, the Duchess of Bedford felt a "sinking feeling" around 4pm.  To assuage it, she would invite her friends for a cup of tea served with bread, butter and sweet treats.  This small custom soon became a favoured pastime for ladies.  There were actually special dresses designed to accommodate this new meal, which included the letting out of waist bands.  Those partaking of an Afternoon Tea would instead be seated in plush low chairs found in drawing rooms of British estates.
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High Tea, in contrast, concerned the workers who returned home after a long day to a spread of foods such as pies, fish, bread and butter, left-over meats and sausages and potatoes served with pots of tea and glasses of ale.   Left over foods were preserved by keeping them as cool as possible and brought out at 6pm for High Tea during the new industrialised Great Britain.  It has been said that the "high" in the name relates to the use of the chairs that the middle and lower classes used at home while dining, such as stools, or even to the fact that some would stand whilst eating.  

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